hatred vs forgiveness,

when people talk something bad about you, what will you do?
silence can not solve anything. you save all your feeling inside, the those will eat your heart slowly.
I remembered someone said to me about this:
when you share your problem to God, your load will decrease approximately 50%. when you share to others again, your load will automatically decrease as many as people you share your problem to. don't let yourself torture with your problem indeed. sometime you need someone to talk to and God never leaves you.
thanks for this words! :)

I mean, what you really feel when hatred surrounds you? is it a good or bad thing?
at the time you realize, how hatred controls you into something that you don not suppose to be. you have no going back. need a long time to active your heart voice indeed.
honestly, I'm not a kind of girl that easily forgive someone. but one year lately is such being a special point in my life. I mean, I learn how to control the hatred things then forgive
and, actually, I have felt the beautiful side of forgiveness. I had a problem with someone that annoyed me by words. first time, I felt like I wanted to kill someone. but after did some brain storming, I should say that forgiveness is the best way to keep your good relationship.
living with hatred only gives you another bad expectation and destroy your heart.
in the end, hatred can not solve problem, forgiveness does! :)